Ever since I wrote my blog ‘Untying The Knot’ my email inbox hasbeen bombarded with people (brides and vendors alike) not only thankingme for bringing that situation to light, but with similar stories anddozens of links to what I will call ‘wedding injustices’ for lack ofbetter term. On Saturday morning I received one that I just couldn’tresist sharing as it was quite likely some of the worst weddingplanning advice ever posted to the internet.
The blog, titled ‘The Big Wedding Money-Wasters’ was posted to Yahooblogs in the Food section, and seemingly featured as well. The authorswere two women - Rita Mauceri and Elicia Rubin- who call themselves ‘Entertaining and Style Experts’ but judging fromtheir blog, nothing could be further from the truth. Apparently theyalso author books, which after reading this blog I would suggest bridessteer clear of wasting their money on because if their books areanything like their blog, they are likely filled with equally worthlessadvice.
Here is a link to their blog, which advocates planning a cross between a hillbilly hoedown and welfare-state wedding.
By suggesting spending $300.00 on your wedding dress they are in factsuggesting that your wedding dress be reduced to what many girls spendon prom dresses. I don’t even think a bride would consider this‘advice’ in the first place, so no need to waste time on the foolishsuggestion. Brides, this is your magical day that you have dreamed ofall your life…Nuff said.
Band (and DJ)
The prices they list for a band or a DJ are quite unrealistic on thelow end (that is being kind) and they go on to suggest either having afriend DJ for you or using an IPod in combination with renting a soundsystem.
Please don’t believe for a second that a random friend or an automatedIPod could replace a band or DJ with experience at reading a crowd, theIPod being the worse of both options. So when people aren’t dancingbecause the auto-play IPod isn’t playing the correct sequence of songsare your guests expected to shuffle through songs making wild guesses? Just go to YouTube and search ‘Ipod DJ’ to see a plethora of horrorstories regarding this option.
As they say, cupcakes can be nice… but remember, the ‘Etsy’ featuredcupcakes were likely made by a bakery and the photo taken by aprofessional photographer hence making them look so good. Do yourselfa favor, don’t bake Betty Crocker cupcakes in your kitchen and bringthem to your wedding. By cutting the cost of a wedding cake or bakerypresentation you aren’t cutting enough money to compromise the look ofyour wedding cake and reduce it to the look of something you bought ata bake sale.
I was married once, and my former mother-in-law did just what this blogsuggests… went with the lowest low-budget photographer available. Whatwe got was low-budget photographs. Bad lighting, bad angles, badpictures. If the photographic memories of your wedding day are oflittle to no importance to you, just ask an art school student orbetter yet a guest with a camera to take those important photos andhope you get something worth framing. A camera in the hands of someonewith little to no experience is no different than you or I trying topaint a masterpiece on canvas with oil paints… trust me, you wouldn’twant to hang it on the wall.
Flowers & Food
I don’t suggest picking your own flowers or skimping on the food… Itjust sounds ‘ghetto’ to me. A cocktail type party or a reception withstations can be nice, but to say that a professional caterer makes‘rubbery chicken’ is just propaganda to scare you away from doingthings the right way. As for making your own flower arrangements, goodluck with that… florists are called florists for a reason.
In a nutshell, these two women tout themselves as ‘professionals’yet their advice would suggest that using professionals on your weddingday isn’t the best course of action. Look up the word ‘hypocrite’ andyou may just find a link to their blog. Remember that, before youconsider buying their ‘professional’ book or seeking their‘professional’ advice.
Or perhaps they are trying to start a new trend called ‘Ghetto Chic.’
Let’s face it… I’m not sure if it’s a certain social responsibilityor just an unspoken expectation, but if you are going to have areception at all and your plan is to serve store-bought cupcakes andplay your favorite tunes on your IPod to entertain your invited guests,does that somehow absolve your invited guests from giving you gifts, orfor that matter skimping by giving you the bare minimum from yourbridal registry? One spoon or one plate perhaps? If you’re going tothrow a reception, do it the right way… otherwise you might as welljust elope.
I’m surprised they didn’t suggest a CZ over a diamond for theengagement ring. Maybe that’s in in the book, or they’re saving it fora future blog.